garden 2

what i was going to say was that we have spent the whole week prepping the garden for our little party - gary and mishel helped clear the apples off the tree (though they're still falling), andrew came and cut the lawn, amanda did a great job cleaning the lawn furniture, davyd weeded a bed of roses... gary helped with everything i asked him too, which was wonderful. so it all looked very nice and was, for maybe the first time since we moved here, sort of the garden i've wanted to have. i think i want more - a big pond, a cobbled patio, all that stuff... but this was good. for most of my adult life gardening has been so important, has been the first and last thing - it's where any extra money i had went, where my energy went... it's the place i could write about, be in... a bit obsessive. and i was alone there. i invited people in, but only when i wanted them to and it was always an occasion. this garden, like my life, seems to be about the community - the extended family that we've made. and that obsessive alone-garden hasn't been true for a long time. part of that is being with gary - gardening, not matter how active, is a passive sport. it's a lot about waiting. gary is all about action - doing things... jumping in and living bigger. it's been great. i wonder if i'm on my way to making a garden that expresses that?